Religion

What do You Think Happens After Death?

I am wondering what the prevailing opinions are on this topic. In my opinion the possible options are:

1) An afterlife of some sort.
2) Nothingness
3) Karmic reincarnation.
4) Other?

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Personally, I hope there’s an afterlife of some sort. But nothing has been proven. The First Law of thermodynamics: “Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.”—Einstein, would only “prove” that even mosquitoes would have an afterlife? Or maybe that energy is just different, human energy more evolved, recycled/transformed?

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There are so many areas to explore, in physics, medicine, biology, chemistry, philosophy. I am currently studying quantum physics, space-time, and these theories make my brain wonder even more about life and death: 1) The Parallel Universes Theory and 2) The String Theory

So, scientifically I don’t have any answers, But I hope there is something amazingly better “out there” that our brains cannot comprehend yet, something that science still needs to explore and discover. Some sort of evolved energy we are transformed to after we die, maybe?

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Our earth is beautiful indeed. The human body and all living organisms are amazing. But the behavior of humanity can be so disappointing and harmful to many that it would be pointless if this life were the only one we have to.

And if it is, then we should all make the best out of it: treat each other with respect, dignity, kindness and loyalty, I would like to evolve, to continue to live, to extend my and others’ life,

To me, every moment of my life is sacred, I live deeply every emotion and thought, pain and joy, I don’t waste my time believing in unicorns, in fairy tails. I hope, because I don’t fear. But I live, and I do it intensely,

Do you know that when we die helium is released after a very interesting and complex chemical decomposition reactions of the human body and it -helium- goes up to the atmosphere and then to the universe? That is a fact.

That being said, I trust science, but I love philosophy and I love my life too, so I will be a life extension for as long as I live and then, I hope, I can only hope… there is an afterlife of some sort.

But there might not be an afterlife after all. Who knows, nobody does.

Lastly, I want to point something out about Dr, Stephen Hawking, whom I have great admiration for his research in science. However, I respectfully disagree when he referred to computers no having an afterlife. I laughed when I read this, I thought that he was joking (he was a funny guy) so I did some research and nope, he wasn’t being funny at all, he was death serious.

How can anyone compare the human brain with a computer in terms of living or dying? But I will give him the benefit of the doubt since he was a very smart guy… I must be misunderstanding his quote?

When it comes to medicine and biology, I have noticed that most physicists make statements I disagree with, Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson included. Anyways, here is the quote:

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Dr. Martha Castro, MD

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Coping with Heartbreaking Grief and Guilt during the 2018 Holidays

Coping Grief Holidays

COPING WITH GRIEF IN THESE HOLIDAYS

Coping with grief these holidays can be very rough. When you lose somebody, either to death or a breakup, it can be so darn difficult it can break your heart.

But there is hope, there are things that you can do to help yourself to cope with the pain.

Take in consideration that no matter how you lost that person (death or breakup) you have to go through a process of mourning.

In these times missing that especial person can be extremely difficult.

Do not despair though, coping with grief and mourning can be less painful these holidays following some advice, so you don’t feel so lonely and devastated.

Coping Holidays

  • Accept that these holidays are going to be different from others and hard.

  • Come up with a new tradition in memory of your loved one.

  • Ask your relatives and friends for help and companionship. Don’t spend time alone.

  • Don’t expect everyone to be extremely sympathetic with your grief. They are not grieving and only people very close to you will hug your heart with their sincere love and understanding.

  • Put out a ‘memory Christmas stocking’.

  • Light a beautiful candle in your home in memory of the person you have lost.

  • Make a donation to a charity that was important to your loved one in his/her memory.

  • Consult a therapist or counselor for extra advice and support. The holidays are especially tough, so this may be the time to talk to someone.

  • Make a memorial ornament, wreath, or other decoration in honor of your loved one.

  • Visit your loved one’s grave site and leave a present. Something you know he or she would have loved to get in Christmas.

  • Do not do anything that is going to cause you stress or anxiety. You have enough with your grieving.

  • Journal when you are having an especially bad day.

  • Skip holiday events if you are in holiday overload.

  • Don’t feel guilty.

Coping Grief Holidays

  • Don’t get trapped.  When you go to holiday events, drive yourself so you can leave if it gets to be too much.

  • Pull out old photo albums and spend some time on the holiday looking at photos.

  • Make a dish that your loved one used to make. Don’t get discouraged if you try to make their dish and you fail.  We’ve all been there (or, at least I’ve been there!).

  • Leave an empty seat at the holiday table in memory of your loved one.

  • If leaving an empty seat is too depressing, invite someone who doesn’t have any family to spend the holiday with.

  • Don’t send holiday cards this year if it is too sad or overwhelming.

  • Put out a photo table with photos of your loved one at holiday celebrations in the past.

  • Go to a grief group for extra support.

  • Remember that crying is okay.

  • Coping gets a bit easier when volunteering in your loved one’s memory.

  • Ignore people who want to tell you what you “should” do for the holiday.  Listen to yourself, trust yourself.

  • Watch the food.  Food can make us feel better in the short term. Don’t deprive yourself, but be careful that you don’t let food become your holiday comfort.

  • Watch the booze.  Alcohol can become a dangerous “friend” when we are grieving.

  • Say yes to help.  There will be people who want to help and may offer their support.  Take them up on their offers.

  • Ask for help.   This can be super-hard if it isn’t your style, but it is important.  Asking others to help with cooking, shopping, or decorating can be a big relief.

  • Write a journal.

  • Practice self-care: hair, clothing, hygiene.

  • Support kids by doing a memorial grief activity together.

  • Try to enjoy yourself. The holidays will be tough, but there will also be love and joy.

  •  Have in mind that it’s okay to be happy – this doesn’t diminish how much you love and miss the person who isn’t there this holiday.

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Marie Colvin, the headmost war reporter of her generation was killed in Syria in 2012 at age 56 by an IED (Improvised Explosive Device). The world of journalism lost a great and iconoclastic correspondent, a fearless female who covered  the most destructive global calamities of our times.

 

She lost an eye when she was reporting in Sri Lanka at the end of the civil war. She interviewed Gaddafi twice, and risked her life covering conflict in Chechnya, East Timor, Kosovo, Sierra Leone, and Zimbabwe.

Her personal life was highly interesting as it was her professional one: extremely motivated, bold and unpredictable. She married several times, drank heavily, suffered from PTSD and never allowed anyone to box her into what society expects from women’s roles.

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How To Cope with Anger While You are Grieving

Losing a loved one can be one of the most painful and stressful events in your life, and it might cause severe emotional crisis that could develop into different physical symptoms or diseases:

  • Anger
  • Despair
  • Guilt
  • High blood pressure
  • Headaches
  • Bone aches
  • Worsening of arthritis symptoms.
  • Gastritis or worsening of symptoms.
  • And more….

This emotional maelstrom can affect behaviour and judgement. Many patients report to me stomach pain, eating habit changes: loss or gain of appetite, intestinal upsets, sleep disturbances and loss of energy. Of all life’s stresses, mourning can seriously test your natural defense systems. Existing illnesses may worsen or new conditions may appear.

In stressful and sad times you don’t need people around you who do not support you. You need to surround yourself with loving human beings who actually care about you. Go out with them, trust them if they have proven to you that they are loyal and faithful.

Having and caring for pets like dogs, cats, birds, is another way to find comfort. I especially love cats, but others prefer dogs or birds. Some people don’t like animals and would rather care for plants. Therefore, get into planting, gardening, farming and grafting. Some of my patients have expressed their liking towards social activities like volunteering, helping others, “not being at home where there are so many memories” — they say. It is fine, but remember,  sooner or later you have to face reality and stay at home. So do the volunteering for another reason such as helping others and just “not” to be at home.

Remember: After the storm, calm is restored

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